Seniors and Pain
Top Tips for Caregivers
Taking care of a suffering child or parent is one of the biggest challenges a person can face. We have collected a list of “Top Tips” to make your day-to-day more manageable. For additional information and advice, please refer to the books and web sites listed on our Resources for Caregivers page.
It’s sometimes hard to admit how often the most basic courtesies can go out the window when we’re feeling stressed. If you’re cranky, tired or overwhelmed – and those emotions are surfacing as impatience or anger – take a moment to recenter yourself for the task at hand. Breathing exercises, a short walk around the block or even just closing your eyes for 10 seconds and reminding yourself of your capabilities can make a difficult or irritating task all the more bearable – and your loved one all the more thankful.
No matter what caregiving situation you find yourself in, your health must remain your top priority. Without a strong mind and body, you won’t be of much help to anyone. Remember to get regular check-ups, adequate exercise and plenty of sleep. Also try to eat as healthfully as possible. If your back is bothering you, talk to your doctor about exercise programs (such as Pilates or yoga) that can help build strength. Don’t forget that caregiving is taxing on the mind as well. Be sure to pay special attention to how you’re feeling and be on the look out for signs of depression.
Educate yourself about your loved one’s health conditions and how to communicate effectively with doctors. When a loved one is in pain, it is sometimes easy to feel hopeless about the condition and outcome. The more you know about the specific illness or injury that your family member is living with, the more confident you’ll feel about your caregiving. Research the condition as well as the various types of treatments used to treat it. That way, you’ll be an active participant in the healing process. For more information about how to speak with the doctor on your parent’s behalf, click here for our Caregiver Dos and Don’ts at the Doctor’s Office.
Recognizing when you’re overwhelmed – and remembering that no one person can do everything – is one of the best gifts you can give yourself and your loved one. Even though it’s sometimes difficult to ask for help (especially from those who have disappointed you in the past), there is no harm in trying again. It may be helpful to create a specific “To Do” list for others who are willing to lend a hand. When delegating to friends or family, be honest about your needs and be specific about your expectations. You may be surprised what results can come from simply saying, “I need your help.”
If the people in your life are unable to lend a hand, there often are community organizations that can help lighten the load. Research resources in your hometown (such as Meals on Wheels, companion programs for the elderly and infirm offered through religious, philanthropic or social organizations, or caregiver support networks) that can offer the respite and support you need. Click here to access our Resources for Caregivers page.
Isolation is a problem for many caregivers. Many believe that no one can understand what they’re going through. Make an effort to tell others in the family what’s going on; your openness and honesty can be the first step in bringing everyone together in a united mission. One way to keep people posted on what’s happening is to build a web site where you can share your thoughts and experiences. Not sure where to start? Caring Bridge offers free, personalized web sites with patient care journals, guestbooks and photo galleries.
Everyone needs a time out once in a while. Most of us even need a time out every day. We’re just not wired to work 24/7 and, in fact, there’s no shorter route to burnout than an unforgiving schedule. So cut yourself some slack, and make the time to pursue the activities and hobbies you enjoy. Whether it’s knitting, going out for coffee with friends or training for a marathon, it’s important to you and should not be sacrificed in the name of caregiving.
If your loved one needs constant companionship, look into short-term respite care resources in your community. Often times, there is someone willing to “take a shift” and give you the rest and relaxation you deserve.
Whether you’re feeling stressed to the max or just need some sound advice, you might want to consider hiring a Geriatric Care Manager. Not only can these professionals recommend coping strategies for you and your loved one, but they also can act as advocates for patient rights and ensure that your parent is receiving the best care. For more information about how to find and hire a Geriatric Care Manager, conduct a Google search or contact the National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers.
Treat Your Loved Ones With Patience, Kindness and Respect
It’s sometimes hard to admit how often the most basic courtesies can go out the window when we’re feeling stressed. If you’re cranky, tired or overwhelmed – and those emotions are surfacing as impatience or anger – take a moment to recenter yourself for the task at hand. Breathing exercises, a short walk around the block or even just closing your eyes for 10 seconds and reminding yourself of your capabilities can make a difficult or irritating task all the more bearable – and your loved one all the more thankful.
Take Care of Yourself
No matter what caregiving situation you find yourself in, your health must remain your top priority. Without a strong mind and body, you won’t be of much help to anyone. Remember to get regular check-ups, adequate exercise and plenty of sleep. Also try to eat as healthfully as possible. If your back is bothering you, talk to your doctor about exercise programs (such as Pilates or yoga) that can help build strength. Don’t forget that caregiving is taxing on the mind as well. Be sure to pay special attention to how you’re feeling and be on the look out for signs of depression.
Educate yourself about your loved one’s health conditions and how to communicate effectively with doctors. When a loved one is in pain, it is sometimes easy to feel hopeless about the condition and outcome. The more you know about the specific illness or injury that your family member is living with, the more confident you’ll feel about your caregiving. Research the condition as well as the various types of treatments used to treat it. That way, you’ll be an active participant in the healing process. For more information about how to speak with the doctor on your parent’s behalf, click here for our Caregiver Dos and Don’ts at the Doctor’s Office.
Ask for Help
Recognizing when you’re overwhelmed – and remembering that no one person can do everything – is one of the best gifts you can give yourself and your loved one. Even though it’s sometimes difficult to ask for help (especially from those who have disappointed you in the past), there is no harm in trying again. It may be helpful to create a specific “To Do” list for others who are willing to lend a hand. When delegating to friends or family, be honest about your needs and be specific about your expectations. You may be surprised what results can come from simply saying, “I need your help.”
If the people in your life are unable to lend a hand, there often are community organizations that can help lighten the load. Research resources in your hometown (such as Meals on Wheels, companion programs for the elderly and infirm offered through religious, philanthropic or social organizations, or caregiver support networks) that can offer the respite and support you need. Click here to access our Resources for Caregivers page.
Communicate
Isolation is a problem for many caregivers. Many believe that no one can understand what they’re going through. Make an effort to tell others in the family what’s going on; your openness and honesty can be the first step in bringing everyone together in a united mission. One way to keep people posted on what’s happening is to build a web site where you can share your thoughts and experiences. Not sure where to start? Caring Bridge offers free, personalized web sites with patient care journals, guestbooks and photo galleries.
Take a Break
Everyone needs a time out once in a while. Most of us even need a time out every day. We’re just not wired to work 24/7 and, in fact, there’s no shorter route to burnout than an unforgiving schedule. So cut yourself some slack, and make the time to pursue the activities and hobbies you enjoy. Whether it’s knitting, going out for coffee with friends or training for a marathon, it’s important to you and should not be sacrificed in the name of caregiving.
If your loved one needs constant companionship, look into short-term respite care resources in your community. Often times, there is someone willing to “take a shift” and give you the rest and relaxation you deserve.
Call the Professionals
Whether you’re feeling stressed to the max or just need some sound advice, you might want to consider hiring a Geriatric Care Manager. Not only can these professionals recommend coping strategies for you and your loved one, but they also can act as advocates for patient rights and ensure that your parent is receiving the best care. For more information about how to find and hire a Geriatric Care Manager, conduct a Google search or contact the National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers.